OM :: The Mom

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om [one moment] meet upOM is *one moment* and is a new meetup designed to notice & relish a moment in everyday life. The meetup idea was created by Linda at her blog, a la mode stuff.

If you’d like to participate in OM, just click the button and you’ll be taken to Linda’s post explaining it all. After you read this post, of course 😉

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hugI have many *mom* moments. With two boys, seven and four, the moments can happen fast and furious. But the one moment I chose this week to share here is a doozy to me.

My oldest is in 2nd grade. He’s very smart and is fortunate so far to have school work come easily to him. We have not had that academic struggle many families have to conquer. The same cannot be said for the social/emotional part of school.

I think I may have become complacent by thinking how *easy* these kid years were sailing along. I was comparing boys with infants and that is a true apples and oranges kinda deal. I am not an infant lover. I don’t smell that baby smell and swoon. Not that I didn’t enjoy my boys as infants, but I couldn’t wait to have a conversation with them. The kid ages of five and above are more *in my wheelhouse* as the corporate types like to say.

Kindergarten, 1st grade and the first half of 2nd grade had minimal traumas. But this early spring has been difficult. There have been tears and fights and name calling. And this drama has mostly been created by my son. He has been struggling with a bucket of emotion that he’s not equipped to handle and will tip that bucket to a point where it just dumps out and he has to let it go.

My moment is the realization that this mom-thing will only become more challenging: not the constant bone-tired care of a baby, but the complex, thought-provoking guidance on the way to adulthood. Am I ready? I don’t think I’ll ever be ready.

But I am willing.


Happy Mother’s Day!

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7 Responses to OM :: The Mom

  2. Oh, how I feel your pain!! We’ve had a tough year…year and a half as well with my 8yo. He’s in 3rd grade but the youngest in his class (Aug. 22). Academically, he’s fine but socially, he struggles. It is so frustrating for a mom (or dad) to watch. Many of my friends say it is this particular age, but I’m not so certain.

    I just tweeted about my 13 yo. He is a straight A student and very social and active in sports. He is really pushing for independence and I’m trying to loosen my hold on him but it is hard. I just got a vague phone call this afternoon about going from one house to another. My questions weren’t being answered so I told him he had to come home. I’m not liking this stage!

    Candy is right. Our awareness and acknowledgement of these issues will only help us in handling them. I don’t think it’s going to get any easier but we can be there for each other!

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    • I’m in the same situation with my 7yo (his birthday is Sept. 9 – youngest in his class.) He was ready to go to school and I didn’t want to hold him back, as so many other parents did. I hope it was the right decision…

      And teenagers, oy! That’s gonna be interesting 🙂 I’m glad we’ve found each other!

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  4. “I am not an infant lover. I don’t smell that baby smell and swoon. Not that I didn’t enjoy my boys as infants, but I couldn’t wait to have a conversation with them. The kid ages of five and above are more *in my wheelhouse* as the corporate types like to say.”

    wow, how honest! thank you for sharing this OM moment. plus what an apropos photograph!

    i’m not yet a mom. but i’ve been a jeune fille au pair to boys 5 & 8 and an 11 yr old girl… not that i needed a bigger reason, but the experience certainly made me appreciate my mum of five even more!

    happy mother’s day cyn, candy and linda 🙂

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